I watched an episode of House MD last night. There was a woman mysteriously dying (of course) and this woman was an obsessive blogger. She blogged about everything in her life (even about her marital spats and sex drive) because she felt she had to be "truthful and authentic" to her readers. The team was actually reading her blog to see if they could find any clues as to what was wrong with her. At one point in the show she was faced with a decision. She had to choose between 2 methods of repairing her heart valve. One was a plastic valve, but the drugs that she'd have to take could cause birth defects and the other was a valve from a pig that would have to be replaced every ten years. Instead of listening to the pleas of her husband, she grabs her laptop to ask advice from her "followers".
At first I was irritated. I was offended that they were portraying bloggers like that. I'm a blogger. I don't do that! I wouldn't put that much stake in the opinions of people I had never met. Family is more important than the blogosphere. Then it occurred to me that some people are like that. I've actually had to stop reading a few people because they were like that; people who let the idea of having "an audience" go right to their head.
I love the people I've "met" through blogging. I get excited to meet people in real life that I feel I've connected with on some level. I don't, however, think that some aspects of my life are for all to share in. I'm not so caught up in the total number of people who follow my blog, but rather the select few who actually care about what I have to say. I don't talk about fights with my husband, financial issues or complain about my work because once it's out there for all to see, there's no taking it back. I believe in being authentic. What you see is what you get with me, but at the same time I think you have to be able to decide what you keep to yourself and what you invite other people into. You can be real and still manage to preserve your privacy. Don't you think?