In any debate there are two sides, the Pro and the Con. Notice I did not say the right and the wrong. Rightness is so subjective and anyone who has ever been married knows that there is always that grey area where you have to agree to disagree in order to move on from a sore subject. But what happens when the issue is a big one? I'm talking huge. Allow me to digress for a moment.
My husband comes from a big family. He is one of 4 boys and when his parents divorced and his mother re-married she had twin girls to add to the brood. That's 6 kids total, if you're counting. God bless my MIL because I've only experienced the brothers in adulthood and I can just imagine the chaos and insanity they created as children.
I, on the other hand, came from a somewhat dysfunctional family dynamic where my dad was married 4 (yes, I know) times and I have 2 older half sisters and one full blood brother. I basically grew up with my younger brother and for a few years my sister who is 8 years older than me. My parents divorced when I was young and my mom raised us largely by herself.
Where am I going with this? We have 2 munchkins right now, ages 3 and 7 months. One boy. One girl. I'm just fine with this scenario, my husband is not. He wants more kids and I am pretty dead set against it. The Pro and the Con. The problem with this debate is there can be no real compromise. We can't exactly have half a kid, (where did they get that 2.5 children thing anyway?) so we are left rehashing the issue over and over. When it comes to the major issues in life, how do you decide when the two sides are on completely opposite ends of the spectrum?
In my head I have a huge list of pros and cons on the subject, and to be honest the con list is way longer for me. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with having more than two kids, I just don't think it's for me. I know my patience is questionable at times (lots of times), I know our finances are not geared for any more kids (at least at the present time) and I really love the one boy, one girl, one first born, one baby, no middle kid thing we have going. Isn't it better for me to be a good mother to 2 than a crazy, stressed out, yelling all the time mother to more? Am I being realistic or selfish? I wish I knew for sure.